Hi, my name is Nina and I'm 18. My boyfriend and I recently talked about children and parenting. He said if our child turned out to be gay he would disown it. (We're not thinking about having kids any time soon, we were only discussing it). And the reason to that is because they wouldn't be able to have any offspring, not because he is against homosexuality. I was really disappointed and sad to hear him say that. I tried to change his mind multiple times but he just wouldn't listen. Our relationship is pretty serious so we are most likely going to have children at some point. I honestly don't know what to do, any advice?
Hi Nina. I can relate, but not by child, by sibling. My brother is gay and he is awesome, while my dad was disapproved. I feel like your boyfriend may have got a little ahead of himself. Whenever you become a parent you develop a love for your child like no other. Maybe he will change his mind when the time comes that you two are ready to have kids. However, I find it really ignorant that he would choose to disown he/she because they won't have kids (when that isn't exactly true). I don't know how exactly to give you advice, but if he loves you and the child you guys have, then it really won't matter what sexual orientation they have. I mean, would you really turn your head the other way to your kid just because they are gay, or even bi?
Hi, and yes, I too think you can't just turn your back on somebody you love. I feel like he doesn't know what he's talking about. I truly hope he changes his mind, after all he doesn't know how it feels to be a parent and neither do I. It's nice to know that there's someone who is in a similar situation as me, and I hope things straighten up between your dad and your brother. Thanks for the reply
I agree with the other person, a parents love can be really strong and if he loves you and the kid then he will rather change his mind or not accept it but won't disown them. I hope it works out and good luck with kids... they can be a handful, lol