Post by cosmicmaya123 on Mar 1, 2017 9:01:59 GMT -8
Okay, so I've never been on this website before, but I needed someway to reach out to Greg or anyone it may concern. Me and my sister are big fans of Greg and we watch him together. She loves Eugenia Cooney and thinks that her body is goals and she thinks that she's fat and that she need to be exactly like Eugenia. She has been skipping meals and when she does eat, its little to nothing at all. I've tried getting our parents involved early on and the issue was never brought up. They thought this thing was just a phase. My sister is 10 years old and used to weigh 85 pounds and was about 4'9-4'10 tall 2 months ago and now weighs 64 pounds and is still the same height. She's rapidly losing weight. It kills me to see her so skinny. She loves doing sports but the lack of food is making her energy slip. Doctors have recommended that she eats way more than normal. She only eats about one "meal" a day at school, which I don't even know if that's true, me being in high school and her being in elementary. Eugenia is killing my sister and tearing my family apart. I have blocked her on all social media, and my mom has done the same on her social media, but she just logs out of her accounts on YouTube and watches as a YouTube guest. I wanted to post this, not as a help message, but as an informant. Everyone thinks what she's doing is fake, but its not. It seriously hurts families and individuals not,only physically but emotionally. Thanks for reading if you did.
I'm sorry but as much as Eugenia is scum and influences girls to be like her and it's completely wrong, Eugenia isn't killing your sister. Your sister is killing herself.
Everyone is born with a brain and a conscience. Your sister is willingly and knowingly doing this to herself, she made the decision, not Eugenia. We all know what Eugenia is doing to herself is unhealthy and dangerous and she knows it. Everyone knows anorexia and bullimia is dangerous and stupid. Your sister does too. It doesn't matter if she's young and impressionable, everyone is influenced in some way, and it's your own decisions and choices to act on it. I'm not saying your sister is a bad person cause she definitely isn't and I feel for her situation. I was 14 and 220 lbs. I lost 90 lbs to better myself, but a big portion of that was from not eating. It was my own choice and I knew it was dumb, I was so desperate and insecure I didn't care. I now have stomach issues and continue to struggle with it, even 6 years after. I now can't enjoy a decent sized meal cause it fills my stomach fast and I end up wasting food, my digesting is completely off and I'm not "regular". No food is appetizing and I hardly want to eat ever. I go to the grocery store and leave empty handed after hours of looking. It annoys my husband, and I'm lucky that I'm not in a starving country and I can afford food. Makes me feel ashamed. I'm just sharing this with you cause I don't want you to think I'm judging harshly.
It's not fair of you to say that your sister is tearing the family a part. I'm not saying there aren't problems in the family cause of it, but tearing the family a part is extreme and rude. You can't help her with that way of thinking. She is sick and insecure, and needs professional help NOW. Before she gets sick and ends up in a hospital on a feeding tube. If you blame her for tearing your family a part, she will sense it. That will lower her insecurity even more, and she will continue to spiral down. She will get mad and feel worthless, unsupported and unloved. It could turn her anorexia into self harm to degrade herself, like as in "Yea well I know everyone hates me, no point in stopping. I will show you" and thats terrible. Don't ever blame your sister for tearing your family a part, ever again. Don't even think it. That will help kill her.
Until you can get her professional help, you need to remind her every day that she's beautiful. All of your family. Compliment her, but don't force it or it's not genuine. Spend more time with her, bond with her. A lot. Pay attention to her interests. Ask about her hobbies and her feelings and thoughts. But don't argue or lecture her. Spending more time will keep her away from Eugenia, and she'll grow to learn that she has support and love, which builds confidence. Don't criticize her or argue with her, especially about Eugenia. That will make it worse and push her in the other direction. I'm not saying to agree with her on her choices or desire to be like Eugenia, just don't argue about it or lecture her. Don't forget, get her professional help. She needs it. Especially a counsellor she is comfortable with and can confide in.
I don't fully recommend cutting her off 100% from Eugenia, cause your sister being 10 is going to resent you guys and rebel further into watching her more anyway possible She needs to be educated more on the effects of what shes doing to her body. Scared a little with reality. Make her watch documentaries on it. I also HIGHLY RECOMMEND that your parents enroĺl her into the Big Brother/Big Sister program, almost every community has one. I wish I had a Big Sister growing up, but my mom didn't care enough to enroll me. But I have seen amazing things come from that program, and the close relationships built. She could benefit from a role model, preferably a younger lady. I would say a woman that's 45 or younger. Given your sisters situation, if you let the organization know a bit about your sisters problem and ask for a younger Big Sister and why it would benefit her, they will work with you and set her up with one.
If she loses more weight, and you have to resort to getting rid of Eugenia, you can go through your router settings and firewall and block Eugenia's youtube channels and pages from there. I think you can do it other ways too. And I believe there's a way you can completely block the name Eugenia and Cooney from searches, so any page with her on it wont be accessible. If she's still accessing it at school, you can take a step further and call the school and get them to ban it too. Contact the school board if the school wont comply. Your sister probably isn't the only one doing it, my guess is she has friends who are too and they feed off each other. And my guess is it's a problem in many of the schools in your district. So she isn't alone. If there's a positive response, these schools or school board may even organize some program, lecture, event or speaker for the problem.
But as I said, blocking it even more isn't a good idea until she loses more weight like 10 lbs. Stress the other options first.