Post by knufflebunny15 on Feb 23, 2017 18:15:32 GMT -8
My parents are in the middle of a divorce. I'm 13 and my mom is a pathological liar. She is a horrible influence on my life for that reason and many others. I can't talk to her about anything personal because she doesn't care and doesn't want to talk to me when ever I'm with her. Every relationship shes ever had she has ruined by lying and then lashing out on the person for the lie that she made up. She's ruined her relationships with her sisters, her mother and every friend she has ever had. In the divorce I have to go through custody evaluation and obviously I hope for my father to have full custody. Main reason for this being that my mother is a horrible influence to me. January 1st 2017 my mother wrote me a suicide not and texted it to me, I was the only one who could help her because every one else she's ever known was sick of her lies. As I brought up before I'm 13 and I had to help my mother (over the phone) not commit suicide. I help her through it but it was mentally damaging for me. This was one incident of many. So my predicament is I still love my mother (and so does my father) and she claims she loves me even though she expresses the opposite to me, many of her family members say I should just stop dealing with my mom because all she does is mentally damage me but that's hard for me to do. So I would like to know if anyone has advice for dealing with a pathological liar that also happens to be someone you care about. Thank you for caring enough to at least read through this long paragraph.
Post by PaigeinMourning on Mar 1, 2017 0:21:37 GMT -8
I know there's not really much I can do/say. I guess the best I can do is sympathize with you. Although, I do not know the full extremes and details of your situation, I can relate. My mother always depends on me to be her therapist, and lashes out at me for when I am trying to talk about my feelings. She is a liar and she manipulates me in many ways and tries to get me to admit my 'lack of self-worth'. Basically, she treats me like shit. My mother has no friends or family, and she always tells me how it is my fault, when she is the one who is just pushing people out of her life. My Grandmother, specifically, has encouraged me to try and run away or get help, but I just can't. I know if I tried, I would fail and be punished. I don't really have any advice for this specific topic, other than reaching out to people. I have tried for years to be able to have a couple of close friends, but I know that they don't really like me much at all. I guess what I am trying to say is, you have to find a way to express yourself and be happy. You are your own person, and you deserve to be free and happy. People at your age (well, I'm 15, so) need to be thinking about their future, and how to grow into a healthy adult. I know it may seem ~weird, but you are person, and you have self-worth. I'm sorry your mother won't listen to you. I know that sucks. You have your own problems, and you deserve to be able to talk about them. I have tried multiple things, keeping a journal, drawing, listening to music, getting involved with other (good) people. Some things work, some don't, these are just suggestions. I wish I could help, or at least give better advice, and I'm sorry if this wasn't at all what you were looking for. I genuinely hope that things will get better for you. I like to know that people can get better, I find that to be personally, very inspiring. Feel free to pm me if you ever need to talk. I hope you have a great day!