At first I felt really good about my body after watching his videos, but recently I don't know what's been wrong with me. I've been checking myself in the mirror so much more often and I'm feeling heavier than befor, which is weird cause I've lost 15 pounds in the last month. I'm currently 5'2.5" and 147 pounds. I do have a small curve but I'm just really wanting validation now and I'm scared. I really like his videos, I do, but I don't know if they're helping me as much as they used to. I would show a picture of myself but I still don't know how because I'm new to this whole forum thing and I'm on my phone. I just want to know if I should be worried or if I really should want this validation. Please help me out here
Don't rely on a 30 year old man to validate your body. Frankly this whole thing got a bit weird and i've even seen him just call girls fat on there. While admitting someone is obese, it is not a positive body image video when he's just calls someone fat and moves on. Many girls are underage sending him almost nudes and that's just a bit weird in my opinion.... This may be an excuse to feed some underlying disturbing behavior. Please don't buy into this bogus. Love yourself and focus on what's healthy for you. That means losing weight to make yourself healthy rather than an ideal body image ( which most images of models you see are photo-shopped/video edited and literally their job is to make their bodies look one type of image... also women now are getting surgeries/ procedures/ specific garments to change how they naturally look.) I stopped reading fashion magazines/ didn't look at porn/ and focused on my personal interests to help me feel better about my body. That means finding other talents and things you are good at and try to focus on those. If you think that you are not good at anything you have not looked hard enough within yourself. I personally thought I was terrible at math for most of my life and now I am looking at being an engineer! No one person can validate you. You can only do that yourself. Our society does sexualize women's bodies and I know as a woman that it can be hard to feel good about yourself, but there are people out there who understand and do not think that way. Love yourself by looking at other things to define you, be healthy, and when you do think about your image realize you are beautiful ( and that physical appearance is not the definition of a woman. You personality, passions, and talents are who you are). We all age and if you change your definition of beauty, you can also realize that ageing is beautiful.( we can't be young forever and even many models think there is something wrong with them simply because they obsess over their own image. Personally, I don't think that's a very fun way to live. Get comfortable in your own skin. Maybe try going out without no makeup for a few weeks and see how it makes you feel. I understand you may also live in a very superficial area, if that is the case you may want to move one day if you do not find yourself at home in that type of environment) Makeup and fashion can be fun but make sure that you love the real you without it. Ok i'm done with my rant.I hope some of that helped you.
Post by beccasimmon on Dec 30, 2016 22:46:00 GMT -8
So I used to always think I was fat and that I should loose weight but I found myself to be falling into the skinner ranger. I'm a vegetarian but vegetarianism hasn't done really anything to my body I'm 5'4 and maybe 135ish I'm in dance. (Sorry I don't know how to put a photo on here)